“My Wife Read Book 1 And 2 Of ‘I Steal Wives’ And Said I Needed To Read This Book, Because It’s The One Book About Us That I Would Actually Like. She Was Right. She Wanted Us To Counsel With Sven Immediately. But I Was Still Skeptical. She Talked Me Into It.
I Had A 3-Hour Phone Session With Sven; Her First Session Was A 2.5 -Hour One. That Weekend Carey And I Talked More Than We Have Talked In The Last Five Years. Everything Changed. I Got My Wife Back. And All Of A Sudden We Were Communicating Again And Really Diving Into The Deep End Of The Pool.
The Next Week, We Both Had A Conference Call With Sven. He Challenged Us More, Called Us Both On Our Shit, And...I Don’t Even Know What To Call It. You Just Immediately Trust Him. You Know He Knows He Shit. He’s A Good Guy, But He Is Tough, And That’s Why He’s So Good. He Just Looks Inside Of You.
We’re Talking Again. There’s Not Just Hope For Our Marriage, But For A Far Better Marriage Than We’ve Had In Any Of Our 12 Years Of Marriage. This Went Way Beyond Anything We Could Have Imagined.”
— Kurt, 38, Beer Truck Driver, Boston
“Tuesday, After Work. 5 Hours. Outside. Beers In Hand. Sitting On Cement. And My Life Will Never Be The Same. The Time Went By As If It Were Mere Minutes; So Fast. I Didn’t Even Notice The Concrete, Being Hungry, Or Anything Else.
What The Hell Just Happened To Me? I’ve Never Done Therapy Outside (But You Knew I Liked The Outdoors); Never Gone That Long; Never ANYTHING That You Do. And WOW The Results! MAN, That Was Intense! I’ll Never Fit Back In The Box I Was Living In.
I Hate Therapy. Hate Even The Thought Of It. But I Took A Risk On You, Because You Seemed Different; Just Like A Real Guy. Sven, You Are A Fucking Badass. I Cannot Ever Thank You Enough For What You Have Done For My Life. Everything Has Changed, Completely For The Better. A Few Hard Decisions To Follow Through On Now, But I’m Not Afraid Anymore.
— Terence, 36, Stockbroker, Manhattan
“Yes, Sven, I Let The Dam Break. Well Put. I Appreciate Your Insight Soooo Very Much! Again, You Have Such A Gift!
You Have Had A Profound Impact On My Past, Present, And Future. I Can’t Tell You What Your Presence, The Ripple Effect Of Your Wisdom, Your Friendship/Counseling, Have Brought To Me! But Of Course, You Know And I Can’t Thank You Enough.
I’m So Emotionally Exhausted From This Life. Too Many Years In A State Of Limbo. Now I Wish I Could Stop The Earth So I Can Catch Up.
I Cannot Put Thought To Words, Except To Hug You With My Words And Thoughts From Across The Country. I Never Thought Phone Counseling Could Ever Do Anything Remotely Close To This. You Have Changed Everything.
Know You Are Admired And Appreciated!”
— Rebecca, 42, VP Of Sales, Houston, TX
Hi Sven, Syrene from South-Africa. I am busy reading your book: I Steal Wives: A serial Adulterer Reveals. All I can say from my heart is: Thank you. S.
Ps. Sven, it would be nice if you had courses running for people who would like to become therapists/counsellors. I am in the arts, and am going to implement art therapy with a philosophical underpinning based on expressive art, this includes a lot of digging deeper, which you are SO good at. I love your straight forward theories, and practical advice. I know for a fact that if I can incorporate your methods to my work I will get to the heart of pain through Svens Questions much better. Please stay in touch, and thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!
-- Syrene, 35, South Africa
"Dear Sven, I am getting something from your book. A lot actually. This is going to sound fucked up, but it gave me a gut check & I quit acting like a spastic bitch with the boyfriend/ex boyfriend whatever the fuck he is.
Ps. I must say that the best part of your book is the 'salty' language. I grew up with brothers and in sports, and I mostly work among men. You talk straight! You're like the "No BS Cousin Vinny" we all wish we had, who swears but calls shit as it is, except you're smarter! I'm a far more balanced, peaceful badass now! Thanks again!"
-- Selena, 30, Pilot, Louisiana
"You're the most effective therapist I've had, out of the 14 therapists I've had in my life. You finally changed me.
I hate the trope of the therapist who validates every last thing I say, who understands everything, and who listens incessantly.
You were refreshingly the opposite. Sure you listen and understand, often at a greater depth than the rest. But, you give real insights, advice, encouragement, work and challenges. You actually give assignments and hold me to them. You're just not like any other therapist I've had in the last 15 years.
--Honus, 22 years-old, in therapy since he was 7
“Sven, Two Things:
1) You’re NOT What I Expected!! You’re Actually Really NICE! Totally Caught Me Off Guard. And You’re Funny, Even When You’re Busting My Chops, Which Is What I’m Paying You For. All My Past Therapists, Over The Years, Were Nice To A Fault And Didn’t Push Me. You’re Deeply Insightful And Do Challenge Me, But You’re Really A Kind Man. It Was Both Refreshing And Nicely Confusing To Get Those Two Things Together; Blew My Mind. Wow! Thanks!
2) Again, My Gratitude To You For Your Time And Insight, Last Night. I Feel Like I Just Got A Map To The Wilderness!”
— Teri, 34, Successful Business Owner And Artist, Washington, DC
Dear Sven, you old man!
The day that i decided to live my own life was the mother fuckin day i talked to sven! Really!!!
Thank you so much for connecting my heart to my brain. I really look forward to reading your book, my cousin has a kindle and would love to read it. cant wait to see you when I get back to the States.
And btw, your so awesome..I'm super far away an yet I can still hear your voice and excitement your amazing.
-- Natalie, 19, from France, while working on an organic farm
"Every moment moves me closer! I can never thank you enough for guiding me though this! Eyes always on the prize, no matter how tough it gets. The true me can get through anything boys, money, insecurities, binge-ing and purging, anything. I'm aware and present in every moment and feeling for the first time ever. And even if it's not always immediately apparent. I am and will continue this transformation. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Sven!!!! I can't say thank you enough."
-- Alyssa, 21, college student, Atlanta
"You're amazing, Sven! You have completely changed how I coach, how I treat my team, and how I think. That is no exaggeration. You and I completely eviscerated the problems and you brought so much clear-thinking. I cannot even convey the impact you have had on our team, my assistant coaches, and me. Thank you! A thousand times, thank you! And you did it while we just sat outside and drank coffee, a few times, at my favorite coffee shop. Amazing!"
-- Brad, 46, Head Coach of #1 ranked NCAA Division 1 athletic team
"Really appreciate your email. Lost 1-0. Our best striker got a concussion in the first round game and that really hurt us today, plus the other team is quite good. All in all another solid season for our program, made it into the second round of NCAA national playoffs. Again, you helped me turn the corner in my career 5 years ago when you challenged me to look at myself, my underlying motives, fears, etc. -- that's made a huge difference. Our winning percentage has shot up big-time, since, and we win the conference almost every year and go to nationals. Thanks, man!"
--Tony, 43, NCAA Soccer Coach, 2016
"Hi Sven I want you to know that your words made a very positive impact on my decision to leave a job of 20 years and start something new at this point in my life. Your posts about doing things that terrify you to get anywhere in life really touched me because I had been miserable in my job for the past two years but I was very very comfortable. So thank you for the inspiration you really helped a lot with this. I found the scariest part in this whole adventure was actually leaving my job. Interviews and applying for jobs that was a lot of fun."
-- Desiree, 49, Minneapolis, 2016
"Sven, I've thought more about our phone conversation, this past week. Y'know, I've always thought my fear in relationships was abandonment. Fear that the person I love will give up on me. But the real issue is that I fear that person 'will not love me for who I am, ME.' You were right. YOU WERE RIGHT. It's like you say, really everything does first boil down to my relationship with myself. This is BIG stuff!"
-- Wren, 41, Marketing Director, Chicago