Badass Counseling®

Manhattan, NYC & Stamford, CT

Unleashing Excellence


"Sven accomplished more with you in 5 weeks than I accomplished in 8 YEARS!"  -- The former psychologist of a client of Badass Counseling (NYC, Greenwich/Stamford, CT)


The most cost-effective, time-efficient and LIFE-CHANGING counseling you have ever experienced! It's intense & moves fast! This is NOT psychology; it's SPIRITUAL COUNSELING*, which means it goes categorically deeper and moves at a much higher velocity than any counseling you've experienced before. it's about finding your TRUE VOICE, deep within, the voice of the gods murmuring deep within your soul your highest truth and MOST POWERFUL SELF!


"I'm the guy who finally brings you to true happiness, lasting peace, and finally, finally, finally a sense of real clarity about life and who you really are. That's it. That's what I do. I tap into and find the real you, and help you have the courage to become who you really are, deep down. And I happen to really kick ass at what I do!" ---- Sven


- Rate: $250/hour. Insurance not accepted. Sliding scale down to $120/hour for those struggling financially and war veterans.


 Many clients only need a few sessions! Thus, you will actually save money by working with me! You pay far, FAR less with Badass Counseling. You will pay far more by continuing to work with therapists who get little progress because they sit back, nod, let you keep talking and talking, and never really dive into your life. I will change your life and do so quickly.

This is the best investment you will ever make! 


- Specializing in people who have tried other therapies and counselors and had little or no success! Badass Counseling was designed over two decades for individuals who yearn to go to the next level in life, couples with the hardest problems, successful and high-functioning women, and men who hate therapy! ( well as unmotivated/depressed teens//20s)  Faster results, lasting impact, deeper peace, greater happiness, and SAVES MONEY!


*** Sven Erlandson, M.Div., is a 5-time published author; former military and NCAA Head Coach for Strength and Conditioning; clergy. As copyright dates confirm, he was the 1st author ever to name and define the 'spiritual but not religious' phenomenon, as cited on Wikipedia (link), and

Sven Erlandson is the de facto father of the "Spiritual  But Not Religious" movement.



- All clients must submit a full autobiography before the first session, so that we can hit the ground running and not spend 10 sessions just getting to know each other before I can help you, as most therapists do.

Saves time, saves money!

- All sessions are a full 60 minutes, not 50 or 45, as with most counselors.

- Save time! Save money! BOOK NOW! Offices in Manhattan, New York City (Midtown) and Stamford, CT. Also serving parts of New Jersey. Skype and phone clients in South Africa, Great Britain, China, etc.

***Go to Contact page or call: 203.536.2426***


- Day-long and weekend-long intensive sessions are available but must be booked at least two weeks in advance. Otherwise, a 4-6 hour first session is strongly, strongly recommended; though it is only mandatory that the first session be at least three hours, because nothing gets accomplished in one hour. Most success and progress happens in that 4th, 5th, and 6th hour! But most people never experience that because they've never had this type of counseling. By front-loading counseling, months and years of counseling are ELIMINATED!...and that means YOU SAVE MONEY!.......unlike most counselors who let you talk on and on for months and years, with little direction, all while draining your wallet. Badass Counseling is faster, deeper, more powerful and, in the long run, far less expensive than most other therapies, clergy, counselors, and coaches.


*Licensure is NOT required in most states, including Connecticut, for types of SPIRITUAL COUNSELING/COACHING. Sven Erlandson, MDiv, is not a licensed psychologist, mental health professional, or anything related to the medical field. If you require mental health counseling, you should seek help from a licensed mental health professional. Badass Counseling is SPIRITUAL COUNSELING, helping clients unlock the voice of God/gods/universe/soul/higher power inside them, so that they can begin to live their truth and finally experience happiness and true aliveness.



"Hey man, I don't know if you remember our sessions from last summer,

but your book is the most intense book i have ever read, because

the farther I get into it, the scarier it gets.

But, its a damn good book and I'm telling everyone so." 

-- T. Gabel, 26, NYC, regarding I Steal Wives


For over 25 years, Sven Erlandson has been a leader in the field of spirituality in America -- as it intersects sports, politics, religion, business, and relationships. He was the very first author to both name and delineate the 'spiritual but not religious' movement in America, long before the phrase entered the American vulgate and even longer before the movement hit critical mass; and is recognized in Wikipedia for that cutting-edge work.

His articles have been published in major newspapers, international journals, ezines, and magazines. Additionally, his books have been critically acclaimed as 'highly controversial', 'extremely cutting-edge', and more. Like his counseling and speaking, Sven's books have been challenging outdated ideas and radically changing lives for decades.

I Steal Wives

With a counter-intuitive, Freakonomics-esque approach and positive , often self-deprecating voice, I Steal Wives delivers the one thing all couples want but no book has been able to provide – a proven inoculation against marital infidelity.

I Steal Wives is the first and only book, past or present, to bring a repeat cheater’s experience and a therapist’s eye to marital self-help. To draw a parallel, it is “How to secure your house,” from the perspective of a professional burglar.

Fusing the narrative color of I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell with the relationship insight of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, I Steal Wives both entertains and packs a punch.

So fresh is the concept, MSN carried an advice article on March 31, 2011 with this tag: “Imagine your husband cheated. Now imagine that you could sit down with the other woman and find out, from her perspective, why he strayed. Before you recoil in horror, consider this: This woman’s advice may actually be helpful.” Unlike the MSN article, in which therapists offer second-hand commentary -- usually learned from a book...written by someone else who likely had no first-hand experience with infidelity -- on the stories of cheating women, I Steal Wives is told by a therapist who was a serial cheater, himself.

The author writes, "Over the past 25 years, since my junior year of college, I have had affairs with 25+ women in committed relationships, seen two wives cheat on me, and cheated on my first wife. Yet, I also have nearly two decades of experience as a trained relationship and trauma counselor in private and public practice. Thus, I Steal Wives is a fascinating, funny, and powerful book of true stories and theories that I have developed and successfully applied in my work with couples. This is the real deal, not the crap you see on TV or read in People magazine."

I Steal Wives is the first and only relationship self-help book that men will actually want to read and women will not be able to put down. For, it addresses the single most terrifying yet least talked-about issue crippling marriages in America: Why women cheat, and why it is far more common than anyone wants to admit, or even realizes.

Written in salty, everyman language with real 'guy stories', I Steal Wives is like having a few beers with the coolest and most insightful therapist you've ever met. It is guaranteed to change how you view relationships and women, especially if you are one.


This is a two-volume book: Book 1 (above) and Book 2 (below).

Badass Jesus

About the Book: This isn’t your grandma’s Jesus. This book is for those who need a Jesus who was:

  • a fighter
  • a ferocious personality
  • a man of fire and courage
  • a man who had hell in his blood and mad love in his heart.

This book is for a rare class of athletes: the fiercest and most intense. It is for the lions, the wild horses, and the badasses, who naturally possess the strongest potential for great leadership. Badass Jesus will powerfully challenge your spirituality. Focused on Jesus’ core principle rather than all the differing beliefs of Christian churches, Badass Jesus offers a simple new vision of intense faith: Jesus’ ethos of extreme self-sacrifice mixed with his 1st and Greatest Commandments of radical, noble love – all dedicated to serving God and changing the world.

Rescuing God from Christianity

Finally, a usable and relevant reinterpretation of Christian Scripture, using metaphor rather than literalism. A challenging, life-changing new path for the spiritual seeker and for all who believe in God, but whose souls the Church cannot satisfy


The 7 Evangelical Myths

Written during the height of the presidency of George W. Bush, 7 Myths is written for people who are tired of the overreaching of evangelical Christianity, particularly as it intrudes on American politics. Through critical exploration of Christian doctrine and Jesus’ teachings on love, noted author Sven Erlandson exposes the flaws in evangelical theology and provides penetrating insights for those trying to counter evangelicalism and restore some measure of balance to American politics.

Spiritual But Not Religious

A book well ahead of its time

This seminal book by author Sven Erlandson put him and his work on the map, and forever influenced future authors in the field of American spirituality. Raw, fresh, and deep, this book is everything the individual seeker could need, yet everything institutionalized religion fears.

From the Back Cover:

For many spiritual people in America, the Christian Church has lost its appeal. Americans have become disenchanted with the Church's unbelievable story and ugly history. They have been turned off by the Church's use of outdated and hard-to-understand language and music. And they have become contemptuous of Church leadership littered with the uninspired, overbearing, and weak. This has created an exodus from organized religion that, in turn, has created an enormous spiritual longing in America.

Spiritual But Not Religious takes a deep look at this ever-growing problem, which in the new century is strengthening its grip on younger America and posing a mortal threat to the Church--a threat the Church has been too afraid to look at. Challenging, fascinating, and oftentimes humorous, Spiritual But Not Religious closely examines the exodus from the Church, citing its causes and implications. It also offers a detailed plan for what the Church must do to not only regain its lost members, but to regain its lost spirit. Let there be no doubt, a revolution is needed! Spiritual But Not Religious is the call for that revolution.

We read to know we are not alone
— C.S. Lewis, British Scholar and Novelist (1898 - 1963)